For many young couples, there is a certain amount of financial and emotional stress that comes with Valentine’s Day. Among women who are dating, the message they get from family, friends and others is that Valentine’s Day is the time to know if your guy is really into you. They may even start getting some Valentine’s Day proposal ideas. Just as Beyonce sang: “If you like it, then you should’ve put a ring on it,” scores of unmarried women are now telling their men: “If you really loved me, you’d make it official.”
So imagine the stress right now that’s weighing on countless men who feel that they have to pick the right ring and pop the question -– or risk being quickly dropped to “ex boyfriend” status — by this Valentine’s Day. After all, once they’ve been dating for a while, many young couples will naturally have to deal with questions from others about getting engaged and choosing “the ring.”
So “the ring” is definitely being thought about right now — by men and women alike. And not just any old ring. It’s got to be a ring that a woman would be proud to wear and “show off” to anyone who cares to look. While we don’t know exactly how many ring boxes will pop open after a Valentine’s Day proposal, it is a safe idea to assume that most of those boxes had better contain diamonds, and big ones at that.
Real or imagined, the pressure to buy as much ring as he can (or cannot) possibly afford will confront any man who is contemplating Valentine’s Day proposal ideas.
Is one carat respectable? That depends. Some women consider two carats a “starter” ring. Will a three-carat rock do the trick and rock her world? Again, it depends. How many carats did her girlfriends or co-workers get when they were engaged?
All these thoughts and questions loom large for men contemplating a Valentine’s Day proposal.
If a man has taken f-o-r-e-v-e-r to pop the question, the guilt alone may lead him to give his woman a huge “I’m sorry” Kobe-style ring. Or what about guys who currently have kids with their significant others. Those guys are thinking: Should I give a half carat -– or a full carat -– for each child that’s already here?
Well, here’s a reality check for you ladies in waiting: The financial stress of getting that big rock works both ways — impacting both of you equally and lingering with you both over the long haul. So stop wondering, for a moment, whether your man will follow tradition and surprise you with a ring, or whether he’ll simply take you shopping and let you pick a modest, affordable ring that you should “say” you like versus the big, blinging ring you really do want.
Instead, consider this cold, hard truth: No matter what ring you receive as a token of his devotion to you for all eternity this Valentine’s Day, it is a ring that you both will live with hopefully forever, along with whatever bill or debt that your fiance goes into to pay for the ring. Read the rest of How Much Engagement Ring Can He (or You) Really Afford? on Black Voices
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