Paying kids for good grades is a hot topic in parenting circles. Some view it as smart motivation. Others believe it undermines the value of learning. I get the skepticism—but after years of doing it with my own children, I stand by it completely.
In our household, an academic allowance isn’t just about cash—it’s about reinforcing values, motivating effort, and encouraging academic excellence. While not every parent may agree, here’s why I believe rewarding kids for strong report cards is one of the best decisions we’ve made as a family.
1. It Motivates My Kids to Maintain High Grades
Let’s be real: kids aren’t always internally motivated—especially when it comes to tough classes or the final stretch of a semester. My two older kids, now in 11th and 8th grade, love academic success. But they’re also driven by the knowledge that good grades translate to financial rewards.
Here’s how our academic allowance works:
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$20 for each A
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$10 for each B
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An extra $5 bonus for A+ or B+ grades
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A GPA-based bonus at the end of the school year
We don’t pay for grades below a B, which sends a clear message about expectations. This system, which we jokingly call our Academic Incentive Plan, keeps school performance top of mind and encourages them to push through academic fatigue.
And we’re not alone. According to the American Institute of CPAs, 48% of U.S. parents financially reward their children for academic performance. The average amount for an A? $16.60.
2. It Could Save Us Thousands Later
You might think paying for grades is an extra expense, but in our case, we see it as a strategic investment. High-achieving students often qualify for merit-based scholarships and college grants, which can save families tens of thousands of dollars.
Our oldest daughter, for example, is now a high school junior. Thanks to her academic excellence, she scored in the top 1% nationally on the PSAT—qualifying as a National Merit Scholar.
Two of her top college choices, USC and Fordham, offer significant aid to National Merit students:
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USC: Half-tuition scholarship (around $23,000/year)
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Fordham: Full-tuition scholarship (about $40,000/year)
If even a small part of her motivation was linked to our academic allowance system, then every dollar we spent rewarding good grades was more than worth it.
3. It Reinforces Our Financial Values
We teach our children to be mindful about money. In our home, we spend freely on what we value—education, travel, retirement savings—and skip what we don’t: designer clothes, new cars, and material status symbols.
By paying for grades, we’re reinforcing the message that education is worth investing in. Our kids see that their academic effort is something we’re proud to support, both emotionally and financially.
4. It Highlights the Importance of Education
Handing over money for good grades isn’t about spoiling our kids. It’s about consistently showing them that school matters. When we reward their report cards, we’re saying: “We see your hard work, and it means something to us.”
This approach also creates accountability. They understand that rewards aren’t just handed out—they’re earned. And just like in the adult world, effort and results matter.
5. It Reduces Stress for Parents (and Teachers)
Let’s be honest—parenting teens isn’t stress-free. Neither is keeping tabs on multiple class schedules, missing assignments, or slipping grades.
I’ve noticed that paying my kids for good grades reduces the number of school-related emails and phone calls we get. It minimizes the need for constant check-ins or grade-related nagging because our kids are more self-motivated.
I still communicate with teachers and stay involved in their academic lives—but I do so from a proactive place, not because a crisis has erupted.
Bonus: It Doesn’t Kill Their Love of Learning
Some argue that rewarding grades kills a child’s natural curiosity. I respectfully disagree.
In our house, learning still happens for its own sake. My 8-year-old writes stories because she loves being creative. My teenage son invents science gadgets just for fun. And my high schooler often reads well past bedtime with a flashlight because she can’t put a book down.
Kids can be intrinsically motivated and still appreciate a little external motivation too—especially for the subjects they don’t love.
The Bottom Line
Paying kids for good grades isn’t a bribe—it’s a strategic reward system that teaches responsibility, highlights the value of education, and can even improve financial literacy. It’s not a solution for every family, but for ours, it’s been a win on multiple levels.
We don’t expect our children to love every class. But just like adults aren’t passionate about every task at work, that doesn’t mean we don’t appreciate a paycheck. If a little extra allowance helps keep them focused and on track, I’ll happily keep paying up.
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FAQs:
Is it bad to pay kids for good grades?
Not necessarily. While critics argue it may reduce intrinsic motivation, many parents find it boosts performance and teaches real-world reward systems.
How much should I pay for good grades?
Amounts vary, but a common model includes $10–$20 for an A, less for a B, and no reward for grades below that. Adjust based on your family’s budget and values.
Will paying for grades make kids only work for money?
Not always. If paired with encouragement and support for learning, it can enhance motivation rather than replace a love of education.
Can this help with college scholarships?
Yes. High-achieving students are more likely to qualify for merit aid and scholarships, potentially saving families thousands in college expenses.
What are some alternatives to cash rewards?
Non-cash incentives like special outings, privileges, or tech time can also motivate students while reinforcing academic goals.
